Have we all turned into commitment phobics?

Hi,
Thank you for your reply.
I love him. I really do. And I know he loves me too. But we can't commit to each other.
I was happy. He was happy. We had minor arguments, we worked at them, it was never something big.
Although I never felt comfortable calling him 'my boyfriend x' when introducing him to people and I used to simply say 'this is X'. And when I was referring to him i used to say 'I have this friend who..'. He had to initiate the 'talk' and I said I don't want any talks or promises. We did have the talk and it felt better, but then it all turned into a huge thing, with expectations of some sort.
When people used to ask me if I have a boyfriend I used to say, 'yes, I might be seeing somebody'. And not because I wanted to have my options free, because I didn't feel comfortable to put that label on him.
I didn't want to meet his parents the first time, and it took him months to finally convince me to go out with his friends. I never saw the point. I was going out with mine while he was out with his and I knew he wouldn't have had the same quality time if I was hanging around. And they wouldn't have felt comfortable in my presence either.
He used to make plans for the near future and I used to say ' let's see, it's a long time until..next month' . But I swear that I loved him so much. I never got that close to anybody and I never told anybody I loved them ( not even to my parents). A few times when he said it to me, I pretended I didn't hear it. Because I thought it was too early and he wasn't serious.
When we broke up, we've both agreed that we are wonderful people. But he said he is not ready to settle down. I knew he didn't feel safe with me. But he has commitment issues too.....he could have worked at it, instead of finding the easy way out.
But honestly, nobody has been in a similar situation? I don't know what to do...I generally feel suffocated in a relationship, most of the times I don't even start one because I know they are too all over me and want to much of my time. I need to breath.
But then, when I find somebody like me, I feel it's too much hard work and I am not sure I want to expose myself in case they wake up one day and decide they don't want me anymore.

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